“There will always be someone willing to hurt you, put you down, gossip about you, belittle your accomplishments and judge your soul. It is a fact that we all must face. However, if you realize that God is a best friend that stands beside you when others cast stones you will never be afraid, never feel worthless and never feel alone.”-Shannon Adler
For the longest time I struggled with this idea that there are people, people who call themselves Christians even, who are intent upon putting others down or intentionally hurting someone. I wrestled so deeply with that reality where people, with directed intentionality, desired to judge you and who you are with no cause.
In the midst of that wrestling I lost the part where God is with me in it. He sits with me, He walks with me, He even cries with me. He weeps for us in our brokenness and hurt, in our pain and suffering. He is the one who proclaims our worth, not the words of someone else and especially not the lies they choose to tell for their own sake.
The words spoken by others may have a “here-and-now” effect on a life but they will not affect my eternity, nor do they nullify who or what God says I am. It would be so easy to step into the martyr role or the hurt role, turning it into my own version of judgement, throwing my own words out with entitled belittlement. But the same One who sits beside me in the hurt is the same One who reminds me to forgive, to show grace and mercy, and to love like He does.
Oooh it’s hard friends. It’s so very hard in the stillness to give forgiveness and love when you want to gossip instead because you know they did about you. It is so much easier to throw out insults instead of showing love. It’s also alot harder to choose to say nothing at all while saying a silent prayer for them and for yourself. Dwelling in it and on it will only bring about a divisive heart and mind. Choosing to get in the fray of it will most certainly lead to further hurt and brokenness.
Instead, even when it is hard, choose grace. Choose the mind of Christ. Choose to love like Christ. Forgive. And continue the journey with Him.