My highest calling is not to be married. No, it is to be a woman of God. Within that framework, many of us are called into being a help-meet, a mother, a friend, a counselor, a missionary or a leader.
I keep going back to Proverbs 31:10-30, so forgive me the redundancy. I dwell on this woman of valor-as Rachel Held Evans calls her. It is about her, not what is in relation to a husband, not how she is defined ultimately by her marital status or even how many children she has. Scripture celebrates her as a woman and a follower of God.
We are all called to be many things throughout our lives. God calls us to places, to positions and to people. For me, it has become a focus on who God is calling me to be, and allowing Him to move me into what that looks like for me. I have to be receptive to that calling, while also adapting and growing into it.
I forget in the daily life that I am called to be an image bearer of Him when my heart starts yearning to be a spouse. When I start doubting or questioning God’s timing in a relationship, or lack thereof. I get sideswiped with longing to be in a marriage relationship and encourage my husband.
Sometimes I then remember I can do that now. I can encourage, support and love on those around me. I get that gift in the now as a part of my calling to the place and person I am right now. That’s not something I have to wait to discover and do when I am married. In fact, if I am not working on it now what makes me think it will magically bestow itself on me once I am in a marriage?
In the right now, in the very present, my calling is to become wife material. That wife material means obedience in the calling set before me already. That is a calling to be Christ material first, with a byproduct being establishing the pattern for the material of being a wife.