The Waiting Is the Hardest Part

I remember the days. Not long ago at all. Where I wondered if I would meet someone, if I would end up alone. If I would finally find that happiness that a boyfriend (or husband) would bring. I also remember the heartache and pain, the tears behind the questioning of God in it. Of doubting and fear-ridden pleas.

It’s amazing what lies we believe, but also what fears we allow to overwhelm us. While I know they evolve as we grow and journey through life, I think many of them we face in those single moments. When we are solo in life and wondering when, where, and why.

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I love Tom Petty, and I think his song The Waiting may be one of my all-time favorites because of the truth it speaks so very loudly to a single heart. It is so hard to wait. And we focus on this end line, this finish. This particular thing we’ve conjured up in our minds as the be-all-end-all for ourselves. I wonder if that soon becomes an idol for us in our lives. That person that we have manufactured for ourselves in our heads.

While we should cast aside that list, or look at it’s true realistic nature, I have to say we also must focus on what it is we are setting as the priority in our life. If a constant focus on that end game of someone for ourselves, I think it’s time to do a heart check, and a mind check. I think if we are consumed in the waiting by that finish line, we set ourselves up for disappointment at every turn in the bend. We allow our minds and hearts to overtaken by something far less important.

What if in the waiting God was asking you to draw closer to Him instead of your finish line? What if in the waiting He wanted you to be fully engulfed in His plan that you forgot what you were striving so hard for? What if all the waiting was actually your journey? What if that is exactly what God had planned for you because you are that strong?

4 thoughts on “The Waiting Is the Hardest Part

  1. So many times in the Bible we are exhorted to “wait on God.” But I agree that we’ve focused too much on the looked for outcome. Our attention and hope is settled too much on finding someone and not enough on God’s goodness and sovereignty. I think of two people in the Bible who waited on God for something particular: Hannah, to whom God graciously gave the son she desired, and Paul, who asked God to remove the thorn in his flesh but was graciously refused. I think Paul’s response is key: he asked God faithfully, but then realized that God’s answer is less about me and more about God’s glory: “His strength is made perfect in my weakness.” So Paul boasted in his weakness, in the thing he wanted changed, because he knew that it wasn’t about him. This is key in waiting on God: we have to accept that His answer is given in grace, perfect wisdom, and love. We have to hope more for God’s glory in our lives than in the desired outcome
    Excellent post, with great food for thought on a subject that singles really struggle with!

    1. Sarah,
      Love your insight and I could not agree more! Paul’s my favorite in the Bible, and his thorn in the flesh always draws me back to satisfaction in circumstance but never putting contentedness in it. Our contentment is in His glory, nothing less.

  2. Romans 4: 20-21 No unbelief made him waver concerning the promise of God, but he grew strong in his faith as he gave glory to God, fully convinced that God was able to do what he had promised.

    Not that God has promised a spouse or for life to be easy, but whatever God has planned next for me, I want to be like Abraham and give glory to God, to be FULLY convinced in all that God has promised.

    Even as I write this, I am struggling to be fully convinced. I know that is what I want my heart to look like, but I struggle to get there. Thanks for writing.

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