I loved Legos as a child. Who am I kidding? I still love Legos as an adult. Let me just say though, they used to not be that fancy. When I was younger I had a red twist-top barrel chock full of Legos of every size and shape. You had the world at your fingertips to create whatever it was you were in the mood for. Now it’s alot of pre-designed, build it from the instructions provided, type of Legos. Don’t get me wrong, they are fun and my nephews have a blast. I really wonder what’s going through their minds as they play with their Ninja Legomen, or build new people for their Lego sets.
I began to think about that as I contemplated today’s post for Questioning Tuesday. In examining relationships and the building blocks that are foundational to who we are as humans, I realized we’ve grown accustomed to these pre-fab relationships. They come pre-packaged, shiny, and easy to assemble. However, our lives aren’t made of plastic blocks and easily fit together pieces. We are intricately woven individuals (Psalm 139:12-14) who live in a broken world. In too many cases I can relate to, I see relationships falter and rip apart because it’s easier.
It is easier to tear something apart than it is to build something up. You can write and write and write, and in three seconds rip it in half and start again. You can build a friendship over several years, only to say one wrong thing, the very thing you know will be hurtful and damaging, and it will all be over.
Building up takes time. It takes careful preparation and energy. Energy that we too often like to say we don’t have. We have the energy, we don’t have the vulnerability very much. Tearing down only takes that moment of intent and destruction to accomplish it’s purpose.
My question for you today is what are you taking intentional time and vulnerability to build up? If you’re not, who can you begin to stake a claim in to build up a relationship?
1 Thessalonians 5:10-12: He died for us so that, whether we are awake or asleep, we may live together with him. Therefore encourage one anotherand build each other up,just as in fact you are doing.